expectations

why do people require that you have to look like you are doing something to be doing something? i spend time drifting amongst deep thoughts, and i find it an intrusion to be asked to help on some mundane task for a group that i wouldn't ever think of doing for myself. Yet peer pressure in lemming society exists such that if you don't jump up to be johnny on the spot slave labor for the 'deciders', then you are not helping and deserve to be publicly chastised. Plus they further the blow by wrecking a perfectly sound train of thought. Book reading at group events is also heavily frownded upon by social do-gooders. People should be allowed to be there and choose not to participate in all the hubbub - especially when there are more than enough people around asking for things to do to help.