Airing Dirty Laundry

The holier than thou's are going to bring up everything they can to convince you that we are all evil. The Penn State witch hunt has already seen the perps tried by the press in the court of public opinion - even before we assemble the legal system. I have no trust for the legal system - but let's hold back the piling on. Whatever these guys doing, it is a symptom of a much larger problem - catholic church is just as culpable. So are others.

The Herman Cain witch hunt on the other hand is just politics as usual. The whole game of sexual harassment in the work-place is a mis-interpretation of personal rights that has caused me to lose all faith in the current concept of common work-place. History is an event made up by the writer of the story. The personal ethics of interpersonal interaction change depending on the times and the mores of the individuals.

I have been led on before, i have also been charged with stepping over the line twice. Once was retaliation for catching said student cheating - and i defended myself in the process which had no merit at all. The second was at the nickel mind and the impropriety was blown up politically rather than confronted - it was known viral before i even knew that i had said anything. The same collection of persons led to a suicide (bless you tom), and it was a lesson in placing people in impossible personnel situations. I can not be responsible for somebody else's behavior, but i can be cowed to watch without speaking.

It is all a judgment call. Everybody sends signals - we misread them and then hide our actions in shame - winking at worse actions because we all have skeletons in our own closet. Sex is. It can be used manipulatively or shared in love. It is not what it appears to be at all. If you look at the basis of the internet, you have pornography of all types. Free speech guarantees things we don't like. When we impose moral values imperfectly, we break our own psyche rather than fixing them. We cannot legislate morality. We can enjoy sex.

In my opinion, 2012 will take care of sweeping a lot of this moral ambiguity out of the system. It is done, not legitimate and until we come up with an alternative, we are living in bizarro-land. In fact - we have been there for a while and i am much happier on the far side rather than the near side. So i am headed back across the drift - soon but not quite sure when. There are things to do, but i have kept most all of the promises that i made.

I wish to understand - i defer judgment in order to collect data as best i can without being invasive. I can see that i need to have some deeper trust and security - things change when we forget Maslow and i spent too much time off-kilter. There is a need to investigate other options of living together - i have only the final chapter left in Pinchback's 2012 text - i am surprised how close my life is to his - it implies that i can develop the shamanic tools - perhaps i already have. If you are a close personal friend - check in with me when you read this and i will hopefully know a bit more.